My boyfriend has an 11 yr old son who is ADHD. I'm having a really hard time getting along with this boy and I don't know if it is his disease that I fight with everyday or his behavior/attitude. (I've been with my boyfriend now for 1.5 yrs, lived together for just over a year now)
He can not do anything on his own. I'm terrified this kid will be living out of our basement as an adult. He does not shower unless made to shower. My cats are easier to give a bath then this kid, he can't prepare himself in the mornings for school, my boyfriend litterally has to tell him what to do next, how to do it, often times does it for him because its just quicker that way. We even have to make him go to the bathroom for #2! He wont' go on his own - we have to ground him to the bathroom until he can produce something satisfactory before his bowels explode.
He complains he is bored 24/7, only thing that makes him happy is playing our PS3 which is in the livingroom where I watch TV. Yes I have a tv in my bedroom but why should I have to go watch TV elsewhere to avoid his complaints and temper tantrums? He's fights and argue's over dinner. If its home made then he won't eat it. It has to come out of a box from the freezer or he doesn't want it (A lot like his dad there!). He will outright yell at me if something doesn't go his way, if we have to leave the house 10 minutes earlier to get gas if needed or anything out of ordinary. If we take a different road he jumps me on why. If I cook something in the toaster oven instead of the microwave or conventinial oven he throws a huge fit and doesn't want it that way. I have to lay his pills a certain way on the table or in my hand in order for him to pick them up right or he will drop them and I will flip if that happens cuz if my cats get ahold of them I'd be killing me someone.
I pick him up from school (30 mins drive), I take him to Dr's appointments, I pick his meds up from the pharmacy, I cook his meals, I wash his clothes, I try to help him with homework when he will let me. I do so much for this child.
My kids are normal, they do as their told and keep straight A's and keep themselves busy and act like decent little adults. This morning him and my boyfriend (his dad) got into it before school because he's been trying to call his mom all week, she won't answer and she won't call him back (not our fault), well he demanded that his dad make sure he gets out of this house this weekend so he doesn't have to stay here with HER! (meaning me)..
I'm really not an awful person, if you talk me like I'm a person and not your slave then I'll be happy to make you happy as long as I can.
He expects me to "serve him" his meals (bring them to him) and I just wasn't raised that way nor did I raise my own kids that way. This kid doesn't say please, thankyou or excuse me.
Any advice before I go crazy?? Sorry I've gotten on a bit of a rant but its Thursday and I keep this child everyday while my boyfriend is at work and my nerves are just shot.
My boyfriend understands how difficult his son is and often has the same trouble out of him but its 100 times worse with me because he isn't my son. I don't have the automatic love for him. It has to develope and I'm having a really tough time.
Does anyone else here have a ADHD child that can maybe offer advice? Is this behavior common amongst those with ADHD or is he just a spoiled brat?
He can not do anything on his own. I'm terrified this kid will be living out of our basement as an adult. He does not shower unless made to shower. My cats are easier to give a bath then this kid, he can't prepare himself in the mornings for school, my boyfriend litterally has to tell him what to do next, how to do it, often times does it for him because its just quicker that way. We even have to make him go to the bathroom for #2! He wont' go on his own - we have to ground him to the bathroom until he can produce something satisfactory before his bowels explode.
He complains he is bored 24/7, only thing that makes him happy is playing our PS3 which is in the livingroom where I watch TV. Yes I have a tv in my bedroom but why should I have to go watch TV elsewhere to avoid his complaints and temper tantrums? He's fights and argue's over dinner. If its home made then he won't eat it. It has to come out of a box from the freezer or he doesn't want it (A lot like his dad there!). He will outright yell at me if something doesn't go his way, if we have to leave the house 10 minutes earlier to get gas if needed or anything out of ordinary. If we take a different road he jumps me on why. If I cook something in the toaster oven instead of the microwave or conventinial oven he throws a huge fit and doesn't want it that way. I have to lay his pills a certain way on the table or in my hand in order for him to pick them up right or he will drop them and I will flip if that happens cuz if my cats get ahold of them I'd be killing me someone.
I pick him up from school (30 mins drive), I take him to Dr's appointments, I pick his meds up from the pharmacy, I cook his meals, I wash his clothes, I try to help him with homework when he will let me. I do so much for this child.
My kids are normal, they do as their told and keep straight A's and keep themselves busy and act like decent little adults. This morning him and my boyfriend (his dad) got into it before school because he's been trying to call his mom all week, she won't answer and she won't call him back (not our fault), well he demanded that his dad make sure he gets out of this house this weekend so he doesn't have to stay here with HER! (meaning me)..
I'm really not an awful person, if you talk me like I'm a person and not your slave then I'll be happy to make you happy as long as I can.
He expects me to "serve him" his meals (bring them to him) and I just wasn't raised that way nor did I raise my own kids that way. This kid doesn't say please, thankyou or excuse me.
Any advice before I go crazy?? Sorry I've gotten on a bit of a rant but its Thursday and I keep this child everyday while my boyfriend is at work and my nerves are just shot.
My boyfriend understands how difficult his son is and often has the same trouble out of him but its 100 times worse with me because he isn't my son. I don't have the automatic love for him. It has to develope and I'm having a really tough time.
Does anyone else here have a ADHD child that can maybe offer advice? Is this behavior common amongst those with ADHD or is he just a spoiled brat?