Gray
Lairian
- Joined
- Mar 30, 2018
- Messages
- 15
- Points
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Hi everyone,
When I first adopted my cat I was in a very different space. I worked 8-12 hour days, had a well paying job, lived with a S.O., and most of all I was healthy.
Since getting her I broke up with that partner, have been diagnosed with Lupus after a debilitating flare/episode, am now unemployed and on social assistance, moved and I now live with my parents who are a horrible influence, and I now actively deal with anxiety and depression while being home all the time.
My cat has always been vocal. She goes through periods where it's not so bad, and periods where she wails so long and loud that I break down crying, and I debate finding her a new home. I love her, but she is very needy and requires more attention than I can currently handle in my very depressed state. I am barely able to get myself up let alone have her crawling all over me, kneading me, screaming at me all the time. When I wasn't home for 8 or 12 hours at a time her attention requirements were annoying but I was convinced she'd settle down. Ive had her for almost 2 years and I'm beside myself. The longer I stay with my parents (~1 year now) the worse she gets. She is now an absolute trouble maker and her tantrums are getting worse.
Where do I even begin? I feel so lost. I love her but I'm not sure I'm the right person for her anymore. On her good days she is so friendly and sweet, and is genuinely a good girl who just wants love. I think she is a good cat but is also probably a product of her situation.
Has anyone been through something similar? How do you even vet people for adoption. She really needs someone with experience with other sphynxs and probably also has other pets. If I could curb her vocalizations I think I could handle her bit I'm not sure how to fix that either.
Please help ):
When I first adopted my cat I was in a very different space. I worked 8-12 hour days, had a well paying job, lived with a S.O., and most of all I was healthy.
Since getting her I broke up with that partner, have been diagnosed with Lupus after a debilitating flare/episode, am now unemployed and on social assistance, moved and I now live with my parents who are a horrible influence, and I now actively deal with anxiety and depression while being home all the time.
My cat has always been vocal. She goes through periods where it's not so bad, and periods where she wails so long and loud that I break down crying, and I debate finding her a new home. I love her, but she is very needy and requires more attention than I can currently handle in my very depressed state. I am barely able to get myself up let alone have her crawling all over me, kneading me, screaming at me all the time. When I wasn't home for 8 or 12 hours at a time her attention requirements were annoying but I was convinced she'd settle down. Ive had her for almost 2 years and I'm beside myself. The longer I stay with my parents (~1 year now) the worse she gets. She is now an absolute trouble maker and her tantrums are getting worse.
Where do I even begin? I feel so lost. I love her but I'm not sure I'm the right person for her anymore. On her good days she is so friendly and sweet, and is genuinely a good girl who just wants love. I think she is a good cat but is also probably a product of her situation.
Has anyone been through something similar? How do you even vet people for adoption. She really needs someone with experience with other sphynxs and probably also has other pets. If I could curb her vocalizations I think I could handle her bit I'm not sure how to fix that either.
Please help ):