jfinner1
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I've been an animal lover since I was a very little kid. I was the girl that would bring home the injured mouse, or bird, stray cat, or dog, etc, all through my childhood. My mother truly dislikes animals, on a whole, and just didn't understand my love of all things furry, scaly, or feathered. I had 14 cats throughout my childhood. Of these cats, 3 are still alive, living with her, 4 were hit by cars, 4 were sent to my aunt's farm when they annoyed her, and 3 died due to her negligence. She just doesn't care. I've never understood this attitude.... I love my pets like they are my children, but to her, they are possessions, another expense, etc. When my rabbit got sick a little over a year ago, my mother told me to just have him put down. Luckily, I was an adult by that point, and I had enough money to pay for all of his vet bills, but she truly didn't understand why I would "waste" my money on an animal. (He pulled though and is perfectly happy and healthy now, btw) When I moved out of my parent's house, I was determined that I would never have to deal with that attitude again, that I would have as many pets as I wanted, so long as I could afford to properly take care of them.
And then I met my darling BF... He's everything I could every ask for in a partner, with one exception. He has pet allergies. But, he told me that they were manageable, and he actually wants to get a dog when we have a house with enough space for one (he wants a Newfoundland... Big dog...). When we moved in together, I brought my rabbit, but he lived outside, and my fish, but hey, they're fish. Then I rescued a bearded dragon. He was a bit annoyed, but he relented. Then we got Khepri (my sphynx), but we were just babysitting. When the option came up to keep Khepri, he was reluctant, but he agreed because he was already living there, so how different could it be? When Khepri was taken away, I was an emotional wreck, and he really didn't understand why I was so upset. It was just a cat. But he let me move the rabbit into the house. When I brought up rescuing another rabbit, he really disliked the idea, but I eventually convinced him. And when I found out that I could have Khepri back, I practically had to beg... I told him over and over that if it was just any cat, I could understand wanting to wait, which I really could, especially since I *just* got the second rabbit. But this was Khepri. He is MY cat, always has been, and to me, not bringing him home would be abandoning him. He hated the idea, we actually fought about it, and I can number the times we've fought one one hand, and still have a few fingers left over. He gave in, but he's still not happy about it.
I knew from the start of our relationship that this was going to be a constant rough subject for us. I'm the animal lover, he grew up without pets, and just doesn't have that soft spot in his heart for animals. But my goal in life is to have enough land to breed, raise, and show dogs (English Springer Spaniels to be precise), and I would love to foster cats, and have a rabbitat for rabbit rescue/fostering. Oh, and I want to own at least two horses. That's a lot of animals... I've been trying to ease him into things, but he just doesn't seem to want to budge. He seems to warm up a bit to some of the pets we have, but they're still just animals to him. Is there anything more I can do to change his heart?
And then I met my darling BF... He's everything I could every ask for in a partner, with one exception. He has pet allergies. But, he told me that they were manageable, and he actually wants to get a dog when we have a house with enough space for one (he wants a Newfoundland... Big dog...). When we moved in together, I brought my rabbit, but he lived outside, and my fish, but hey, they're fish. Then I rescued a bearded dragon. He was a bit annoyed, but he relented. Then we got Khepri (my sphynx), but we were just babysitting. When the option came up to keep Khepri, he was reluctant, but he agreed because he was already living there, so how different could it be? When Khepri was taken away, I was an emotional wreck, and he really didn't understand why I was so upset. It was just a cat. But he let me move the rabbit into the house. When I brought up rescuing another rabbit, he really disliked the idea, but I eventually convinced him. And when I found out that I could have Khepri back, I practically had to beg... I told him over and over that if it was just any cat, I could understand wanting to wait, which I really could, especially since I *just* got the second rabbit. But this was Khepri. He is MY cat, always has been, and to me, not bringing him home would be abandoning him. He hated the idea, we actually fought about it, and I can number the times we've fought one one hand, and still have a few fingers left over. He gave in, but he's still not happy about it.
I knew from the start of our relationship that this was going to be a constant rough subject for us. I'm the animal lover, he grew up without pets, and just doesn't have that soft spot in his heart for animals. But my goal in life is to have enough land to breed, raise, and show dogs (English Springer Spaniels to be precise), and I would love to foster cats, and have a rabbitat for rabbit rescue/fostering. Oh, and I want to own at least two horses. That's a lot of animals... I've been trying to ease him into things, but he just doesn't seem to want to budge. He seems to warm up a bit to some of the pets we have, but they're still just animals to him. Is there anything more I can do to change his heart?