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I won't pick my kitten, breeder will do it for me

Marinka

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and my question is - is it normal practice?
Hi guys!
I'm very close to getting my kitten and I am super excited but also kinda overwhelmed the more I get to know the process of adopting.
Mama kitty just had her babies and I am in constant contact with the breeder atm. She told me today to let her know what is my ideal kitten and that she is the one who will select which kitten goes to whom. She asked preferred sex as well. I was thinking it'd be more like - I come visit, see the kittens, fall in love with one and leave my deposit. But she said I cant come visit until they are 4 weeks old and by that time she doesn't know if any will be available. So now I gotta hurry up and mail her a check. Which is fine with me. I was just kinda stunned about the fact that I won't have a say in selecting my new friend pet and I wondering if it's a regular thing, do breeders do that all the time?
What if this litter won't be a kitten that falls under my "ideal kitten" description..or I don't know..and I spend money and bring the kitten and it's not what breeders says. I guess Im being paranoid because to us it is a good chunk of money, you know.
Let me know what you guys think.
 

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I have often chosen which baby goes where...if I have a big waiting list, but try to give people the chance to pick their babies out themselves. But after one person gets pick of the litter and others have sex preferences, there isn't always much of a choice left. People with paid deposits are naturally going to get to pick first...and she is right. If you wait before putting down the deposit, they get scooped up very quickly and you will get nothing. I know mine are normally spoken for before they are born. You will love whichever kitten you get...I guarantee it. If you feel bad about it, you could try another breeder that would give you pick of the litter....but you most likely will always have to pay a deposit with ANY breeder.
 

Marinka

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I have often chosen which baby goes where...if I have a big waiting list, but try to give people the chance to pick their babies out themselves. But after one person gets pick of the litter and others have sex preferences, there isn't always much of a choice left. People with paid deposits are naturally going to get to pick first...and she is right. If you wait before putting down the deposit, they get scooped up very quickly and you will get nothing. I know mine are normally spoken for before they are born. You will love whichever kitten you get...I guarantee it. If you feel bad about it, you could try another breeder that would give you pick of the litter....but you most likely will always have to pay a deposit with ANY breeder.

It all makes perfect sense. I don't have a problem giving a deposit for sure, I knew about the deposit before. I just had no idea how it worked with selecting which kitten would go with me. She got 3 girls and 3 boys now and Ive always wanted a girl. I will have to trust her, after all she is the one who lives with all of the cats and kittens, knows them all and is reputable breeder in my area. Thank you Susi!
 

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So happy you asked the question and as usual, @susi794 says it the way it is. It is great your breeder is asking questions and trying to make a match! Having pick of the litter is not always easy/best often it is based on looks and not personality matches...so just be open minded as I am sure your heart is already open for your new baby to be!


Patti
 
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My baby was offered to me. All the other babies pretty much had homes. Of course, one picture and I was in love!
 

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Well I picked Hairry and Fuzzy out but Curly was chosen by the breeder and I was Violets new Forever home. I picked Fuzzy out when is was 24 hours old simply by the coloring on him and Hairry I wanted a cream male and he was the one with bright blue eyes.
 

Helsinki

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I really wanted a female kitten, and my breeder's litter had two females and one male. The female I preferred from looks died at about 3 wks; my breeder didn't take deposits anyway till they were weaned so fortunately I didn't feel that first girl was "mine". At that point I really wanted the remaining female and that is how I got my Zoa :) I feel so lucky... if I had gotten my original preference, I am sure I would love her but she wouldn't be my Zoa! I think things work out the way they are supposed to and I think your breeder trying to match personalities is pretty awesome. Personality is more important than anything :)
 

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I really wanted a male, but the breeder I chose had two females left. After all our discussions, she thought one of the females would meet all our needs and would really suit our family. We set up an appointment to see the two females, and the breeder did not tell me which cat she thought would fit us. When we went there, wow, did we ever figure out quickly which cat the breeder thought would be right for us! So, that is how we ended up with our female Zoey and she was the perfect pick for us. And believe me, I really wanted a male as my research seemed to indicate they are more affectionate. You might tell the breeder what characteristics/personality traits you are looking for and she will probably know who fits most closely with what you are looking for. And, I am sure that as soon as you see that little face, you will be done!!!!! Good luck.
 

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My breeder had about 5 kittens available. I wanted a female, and didn't know anything about choosing by personality. I chose the smallest, most wrinkly girl. And that was Molly. Second time around there was only 1 left, and that was Leo.
 

Marinka

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Thank you guys so much. You really made me feel so much more confident. I just need to trust the breeder and Im sure I'll fall in love in whichever kitten she'll select for me.
 

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I am so excited for you! I am getting a new kitten from a different breeder, and since I am unable to visit, I will be relying on the breeder to choose the best kitten for me. I will use her to start my breeding program again, and while color is fun, I am more concerned about health, temperament and breed standards, even though I get pick of two litters. My cats are my family, so it isn't just their breeding abilities, I want a healthy, happy, loving little girl....and I trust my breeder to lead me in the right direction. I promise you will love whichever one you get. I thought my first sphynx was the ugliest little critter I had ever seen and he turned out to be my heart cat!
 
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