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pattyleo182

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Hello fellow Sphynx mamas and papas! We had two further consultations with vets today regarding Maxi's current heart condition, Tetralogy of Fallot.

His stomach is still swollen like a balloon and today we have noticed, much to our dismay that his breathing is starting to become faster and more laboured again. I am trying so hard to be brave and not give up but everyone who knows something about it that I talk to mentions putting him to sleep, at least once during the conversation. I know that they are just trying to prepare me for the worst, and I need that, because deep down I am so afraid to let go. But I am also left feeling so confused because at times Max seems so himself; so playful and loving and full of life. I am desperate for a solution, to the point where sometimes I question whether this is more about Max being alive or more about me being terrified of letting go. When he first came into our lives, I never could have anticipated in a million years that his little being would have such an impact on me.

One vet has agreed to try Max on a new medication as the Furosemide seems to be having little to no effect. The new medication is called Spironolactone but it takes time to order it specially as this vet is not working every day due to Covid. Hopefully we'll have it soon and hopefully it will kick ass and drain all the fluid from Max's poor belly and everywhere else. Right now this is the best shot I've got at continuing not to take "no" for an answer.

Whatever happens, I want to sincerely give my heartfelt thanks to each and every one of you who has welcomed Max and me to this site with open arms. I have to confess that I joined out of desperation after learning that my Max has an incredibly rare heart condition. That day alone turned my world upside down and put a pain in my chest that hasn't gone away almost like a hole in my heart (no pun intended). But I realised today that actually, what I want right now, what I and Max need right now, is to not feel alone. How does one let go? When does one make the choice to go to the Vet and said that's it.
My husband is loving and supportive but I don't think he's let Max into his heart in the way I have. This group is a space where I have come to realise I am not alone. I am, I believe, surrounded by likeminded, caring, loving, understanding others who at least know the joy of owning a Sphynx if not the pain of having one slip away from you. I feel so grateful to be a part of this group and to be able to share with you all. Thank you for being with me and Max.

Patty <3

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P.S.: Link to my previous threat explaining about his heart condition: Tetralogy of Fallot (TOF)
 

Sheldon13

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Patty,

I have tears in my eyes for you and Max. And a lump in my throat. It is SO HARD. One of the hardest things you will do in life. A vet once told me this: if more of his days are bad than there are good days, it’s time. So while he is still enjoying life I wouldn’t do it. If you start to see him suffer and nothing can be done to relieve the suffering, it’s time.

He’s such a handsome boy.

Love and Sphynx ~ It’s all you need
 

Catzzzmeow

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We will always be here for you. I lost my heart cat to HCM. He was our first Sphynx. We had him for 13 wonderful years. We have 2 others on heart meds and at times it plays on my head/heart when I think about the what happens when things get really bad, but I am not robbing them pr myself of the daily joy they bring into our lives so I do my best to just stay in the moment and love hard. Whether we have them a month a year or 10 years, it will never seem long enough. Trust your gut...and you will know when it is time to give the hardest gift to ever give...peace.
 
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