Abbyknitter,
First of all, let me say I am sorry for your loss--because the fact remains that you cared for this man and even if he turned out to be a jackass--well, you still cared and now that leaves a sad, empty feeling inside. Some people settle for less than they deserve because they can't tolerate that feeling. I am glad that you aren't one of them.
Secondly, what kind of a jerk breaks up with someone this close to Christmas? Hope you can return anything you got him. NEVER SETTLE for someone who belittles you or attempts to make you feel LESS. If he doesn't support your dreams and share your real life issues. then he's just a little boy looking for someone to play with--not someone to partner with.
Finally, you deserve a whole lot better than what he had to offer. I know people always say the right guy will come along...maybe he will--maybe he won't. But I can promise you one thing...being occasionally lonely is a hands down winner to being miserable with someone who does nothing but tear down. Partners build up...people who care about us lift us up when we're feeling down--support us when we can't make it alone.
Hug your cats, reach out to your friends and loved ones and let that jerk eat your dust as you pass him by.
I'm remembering you especially in my prayers today, so that you don't let it get to you and make you feel less in any way after the initial shock of it all wears off.
You can do anything you set your mind to if you're willing to work hard and do what it takes--don't let anybody convince you otherwise.
Love ya,
Susi
thanks i should have known he would be no good when he didn't want me to get Abby, lol!
Until I met my fiance, I was the poster child for dysfunctional love relationships; I kept getting my heart broken over and over again from one bad boyfriend after another. It only took me meeting ONE great guy to turn that all around, but unfortunately it took me over 20 years of dating (and one really bad marriage) before he finally came into my life. 
