Sphynx grieving loss of bonded pair

[KafkasRoach]

Hello all. I apologize if this is the wrong thread for this but my sweet boy recently passed away from rapidly progressing HCM leaving his bonded pair alone. She seems to be dealing with it very poorly. She has stopped eating and hides all day, often in his cat bed. Does anyone have any advice for giving my girl some comfort as she deals with grief? I want to show her as much love and support as I can. I've let her bury herself in his scent by wrapping her in his favorite blanket but I'm not sure if that's doing more harm than good. Thank you.

 

[Catzzzmeow]

I am so sorry to hear of your loss. We have had experience 2 times with this happening. Once with a pair of furry cats we had, and another time when our first Sphynx lost a girl we had. He would go through the house crying…just broke my heart. It does take time just like for humans. Lots of extra loving in a blanket fresh out of the dryer can help soothe them a bit.

 

[Yoda mom]

@KafkasRoach , welcome to the lair family of soo much care and support. all paws are family. names? (((squeeze hugs )) your sweet boy gained his angel wings. I share in the hurt from the same. Remember the love, soo much love.

You are not alone. My Batman and Yoda an extremely bonded pair. Yoda gained his angel wings at age 9 from HCM too.

Batman grieved too. hurt my heart. I did as catzzzmeow mentioned the warm blanket from the dryer. I left out "their blankie" and he snuggled on it. I gave him a couple of dry treats on it and spoke softly to him talking to him and cuddling together.

Batman did not eat for a few days. he walked around looking for his brother. I would shake his food dish and stay with him while he started to eat again. I even crushed a temptation treat onto his dry food.

I kept "their blankie" on my bed right by my side and pillow. I did not wash it for sometime. I told Batman Sleepy time command and tapped the blankie right next to me. He jumped on the blankie and I put a dry treat on it and covered him up next to me.

with time he got into the routine of sleepy time on the blankie right up against me.
My girl is not cuddly with him at all. she gets tucked in in 'her blankie" on my right. Batman gets tucked in blankie on the left.

Every night to this day he goes to the blankie and looks for a treat and to get tucked in. then he purrs as I hold my hand on him over the blankie.

give yourself and your baby girl time , love and cuddles. I share in the hurt. here for you. pm me anytime. don't hesitate to share photos and jump in and enjoy this caring bunch and never hesitate to ask questions. we gotcha.

 

[wundrlust]

Hello all. I apologize if this is the wrong thread for this but my sweet boy recently passed away from rapidly progressing HCM leaving his bonded pair alone. She seems to be dealing with it very poorly. She has stopped eating and hides all day, often in his cat bed. Does anyone have any advice for giving my girl some comfort as she deals with grief? I want to show her as much love and support as I can. I've let her bury herself in his scent by wrapping her in his favorite blanket but I'm not sure if that's doing more harm than good. Thank you.

I am so sorry! That happened to my two boys. Mooshie and Butt were womb brothers, never apart until Butt passed 3 years ago at age 15. I thought I was going to lose Mooshie, too. He was so depressed. He stopped eating and just did nothing. I did not let him see my depression, animals pick up on your feelings. I put cameras all over the house, play cat music, used both regular vet and homeopathy remedies. There were heated beds all over, but I purchased an infered bed, pet massager and pemf mat. It took a few months to pull him out of his depression, but eventually he came around. Now, at age 18, we found out last week Mooshie may have TCC bladder cancer. We see the oncologist next week to discuss options. Needless to say I am dying inside. My heart is ready to break and I'm going to drown in my own tears. I will do whatever I can as long as there is quality of life. I will not be selfish and submit him to anything aggressive unless it will benefit him. I would sell my own kidney if it would help my baby!

 

[Yoda mom]

@wundrlust , (((hugs)))) bless your heart for sharing what helped Mooshie after Butt gained his angel wings.

I am sorry to read sweet 18 yr old Mooshie may have TCC. I know the gut punch of TCC.
here for you and all paws crossed for next weeks onco consult. Mooshie only knows your love. sharing, my rottie had TCC bladder cancer. I gave him a big head smooch, told him we got this and he did not come with a time stamp. My vet was proactive with me a treatment plan. I found an amazing TCC fb support group for pups, surely may be one for kitties. There was so much information and support. I did holistic meds and he survived another 5 yrs with quality of life.. (He did not get his wings from TCC - he had hereditary degenerative myelopathy). Sam even made the cover of the TCC survivors book. PM me anytime , here for you. hugs n positive vibe head smooches to sweet baby Mooshie.

 

[Toa and Ross]

My boys Toa and Ross were from the same litter and since they were bron like two peas in a pot.
Last year Ross died and Toa was heartbroken. He was depressed, did hide all day, didn't want to cuddle with me, didn't want to play. A few months later he was diagnosed with HCM due to old age (10) but I'm sure it was because of a broken heart. I got a kitten around the time of the diagnose. The kitten brought the life back in Toa. He became a grandpa and loved to cuddle with the baby. A few months later another kitten entered the house. He loves watching those two play and lately he even plays for a few minutes himself too
I'm not saying you need to get a kitten or another cat cause that is something you should only do if you feel like it yourself. But I mean to say that it can take time to find out what makes your Sphynx happy again.
Hugs!

 

[Yoda mom]

@KafkasRoach , checking in on you and your baby girl (name?) all paws are family here for you. hugs n head smooches.

 

[Jaimel]

Hello all. I apologize if this is the wrong thread for this but my sweet boy recently passed away from rapidly progressing HCM leaving his bonded pair alone. She seems to be dealing with it very poorly. She has stopped eating and hides all day, often in his cat bed. Does anyone have any advice for giving my girl some comfort as she deals with grief? I want to show her as much love and support as I can. I've let her bury herself in his scent by wrapping her in his favorite blanket but I'm not sure if that's doing more harm than good. Thank you.

I am so very sorry for your loss and for your baby’s suffering. Sending you both so much love.